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What if a couple behaves more than like best of friends rather than lovers? I.e. the relationship of the couple has evolved in such a way that both are very comfortable with each other, know each other inside out, and can accept each other's flaws well... The only shame is that there is no more passion or the boy-girl love in this whole relationship. Is this usual? Is this how a relationship may evolve to? Is this acceptable? If both can be best of friends, two can certainly live together and with each other, isn't it?
On the other hand, if it is not acceptable and not right, then how? Great lovers can be best of friends at the same time; yet, the reverse may not be true - you can be best of friends without any other intimate feelings involved. The line may be thin though. So, when such a stage is reached, can the passion be rekindled? Can the relationship be different? How can it be different when the feeling is no longer there? Familiarity may breed complacency or worse still, contempt.
Expanding more along the same line, can you be responsible to something or someone without love? Some may say yes... But I got to agree with what B said - you cannot be just responsible without any love of any kind involved, otherwise, you will start to resent what you are doing. It is only a matter of time that you get sick of yourself sticking around in anything just out of responsibility. How long can you do that? Perhaps some people last it out longer... but there is always a limit to how long and how much you can be responsible. Simply put, there will be an end point to all these.
Yet, if you are responsible out of love, then that it is a different story. You do it because you love. Of course, as time goes by, the love may become obscured by responsibility. Yet, looking at it hard and deep enough, you may unravel the reasons of love all over again. Guess it is all about being grounded all over again after many ups and downs and looking beyond what is presented?
On the other hand, if it is not acceptable and not right, then how? Great lovers can be best of friends at the same time; yet, the reverse may not be true - you can be best of friends without any other intimate feelings involved. The line may be thin though. So, when such a stage is reached, can the passion be rekindled? Can the relationship be different? How can it be different when the feeling is no longer there? Familiarity may breed complacency or worse still, contempt.
Expanding more along the same line, can you be responsible to something or someone without love? Some may say yes... But I got to agree with what B said - you cannot be just responsible without any love of any kind involved, otherwise, you will start to resent what you are doing. It is only a matter of time that you get sick of yourself sticking around in anything just out of responsibility. How long can you do that? Perhaps some people last it out longer... but there is always a limit to how long and how much you can be responsible. Simply put, there will be an end point to all these.
Yet, if you are responsible out of love, then that it is a different story. You do it because you love. Of course, as time goes by, the love may become obscured by responsibility. Yet, looking at it hard and deep enough, you may unravel the reasons of love all over again. Guess it is all about being grounded all over again after many ups and downs and looking beyond what is presented?
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