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Just feel like raising the issue of “unconditional” for discussion in this entry. Checking the online dictionary and these are what I found:
Unconditional: without conditions or limitations; absolute
Conditions: 1. a restricting, limiting, or modifying circumstance 2.a circumstance indispensable to some result; prerequisite
So how many things on this earth are unconditional, with no strings attached, no restrictions or limitations?
Let's take forth and explore further the relationships with one another. Can they be unconditional? No? Yes? You sure?
The relationship with your best friend, is it unconditional? Don't you expect him or her to be there for you when you need it? Don't you expect him/her to concur with you or at least understand where you are coming from? Don't you want some forms of appreciation of your love, care and concern?
What about the relationships with other friends? Don't you want time from them? Don't you want to be seen as part of a group? At times, don't you want them to be there to cheer you up, to encourage you to keep you going? You are more comfortable with certain group of people. Why? Cos they may speak the same language, sing the same tune and dance the same way as you do. Thus you seek comfort from that, affirm your own values and justify your own presence.
DO you yearn time and love from your boyfriend or girlfriend? Do you expect him or her to understand you better than all other people, and do you expect him to walk the path hand in hand together with you?
For all the love, effort and time you have committed to your spouse, you do expect at the very least faithfulness and the ability to go through thick and thin with you, don't you?
Is there unwavering love between parents and kids? Don’t the parents expect them to do well in school, in sports and recreations? Is it just about kids and their future, or it got to do with the parents’ pride, glory and achievement as well? What about filial piety? What about the ability to accept the kid even he or she is a rotten scumbag?
The above list can go on and on… So aren’t these conditions? Aren't these limitations? Unconditional acceptance, love, relationships… I contest these strongly. Because I am sure there are things that you want out of each if you probe deeper into it. Be it you want assurance, acceptance, love, appreciation, affirmation, support, guidance, time etc… Otherwise, you will not be investing any of your time and effort on it at all. We are often both a giver and a taker at the same time.
Maybe some will say there is unconditional love from god. Well, maybe. God favours no one. His love is encompassing, loving every bit of you no matter who you are and how you are. Even how much you have sinned, you will still go to heaven…? Or is it about you reap what you sow, about kharma? I leave it at this. How about the other way round - your relationship with god? You believe in god, seek faith in him cos you want guidance, enlightenment, support, growth and answering of your prayers? So is that unconditional then?
Perhaps I am cynical and sceptical freak. Perhaps I am just taking this a bit to an extreme. But then again, I think you get what I mean - there is no free lunch in this world… Don’t be naïve. Don’t deceive yourself.
Unconditional: without conditions or limitations; absolute
Conditions: 1. a restricting, limiting, or modifying circumstance 2.a circumstance indispensable to some result; prerequisite
So how many things on this earth are unconditional, with no strings attached, no restrictions or limitations?
Let's take forth and explore further the relationships with one another. Can they be unconditional? No? Yes? You sure?
The relationship with your best friend, is it unconditional? Don't you expect him or her to be there for you when you need it? Don't you expect him/her to concur with you or at least understand where you are coming from? Don't you want some forms of appreciation of your love, care and concern?
What about the relationships with other friends? Don't you want time from them? Don't you want to be seen as part of a group? At times, don't you want them to be there to cheer you up, to encourage you to keep you going? You are more comfortable with certain group of people. Why? Cos they may speak the same language, sing the same tune and dance the same way as you do. Thus you seek comfort from that, affirm your own values and justify your own presence.
DO you yearn time and love from your boyfriend or girlfriend? Do you expect him or her to understand you better than all other people, and do you expect him to walk the path hand in hand together with you?
For all the love, effort and time you have committed to your spouse, you do expect at the very least faithfulness and the ability to go through thick and thin with you, don't you?
Is there unwavering love between parents and kids? Don’t the parents expect them to do well in school, in sports and recreations? Is it just about kids and their future, or it got to do with the parents’ pride, glory and achievement as well? What about filial piety? What about the ability to accept the kid even he or she is a rotten scumbag?
The above list can go on and on… So aren’t these conditions? Aren't these limitations? Unconditional acceptance, love, relationships… I contest these strongly. Because I am sure there are things that you want out of each if you probe deeper into it. Be it you want assurance, acceptance, love, appreciation, affirmation, support, guidance, time etc… Otherwise, you will not be investing any of your time and effort on it at all. We are often both a giver and a taker at the same time.
Maybe some will say there is unconditional love from god. Well, maybe. God favours no one. His love is encompassing, loving every bit of you no matter who you are and how you are. Even how much you have sinned, you will still go to heaven…? Or is it about you reap what you sow, about kharma? I leave it at this. How about the other way round - your relationship with god? You believe in god, seek faith in him cos you want guidance, enlightenment, support, growth and answering of your prayers? So is that unconditional then?
Perhaps I am cynical and sceptical freak. Perhaps I am just taking this a bit to an extreme. But then again, I think you get what I mean - there is no free lunch in this world… Don’t be naïve. Don’t deceive yourself.
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